I put in my 90 day notice at my job (my first job out of residency) the end of September. This nicely coincided with my maternity leave so I won’t be returning. M also gave notice around the same time. Why? M was offered an opportunity he (we) couldn’t refuse.
Except the job was not in NYC or within commuting distance. Let’s just say my initial response was “Hell No” as a New Yorker. Our first trip to Philadelphia together – aka the “I need to convince Bonnie trip” – didn’t end well. At first I was excited – Philly is a lot like Brooklyn (Shhh, I’ve been told they don’t like to hear that). But then as the day wore on, I was sad about leaving my friends and my life here. I was a wreck.
However, it became clear to me this was a job he could not turn down for his career. So, I figured, at the very least, I should check out the job market for me and see what turned up. There was no shortage of opportunities for me. I looked into both private and academic positions. For a number of reasons (new addition to family being a top one) I decided to leave academics and join a private practice. The deal was clinched when M said “we can retire 5 years faster.”
I found a job that I am excited about. It doesn’t hurt that both M & I will also be increasing our incomes significantly and living in a lower COL area. I took advantage of the job and location transition to take an additional month of maternity leave bring the total leave to 16 weeks.
Not quite LCOL, but for us New Yorkers, Philadelphia is a significant drop in COL. So we are practicing a bit of geographic arbitrage.
So here is what I learned from all of this:
#1. Don’t be afraid to see what else is out there
Job wise. Obviously, I knew I was making less being in academics AND being in NYC (doctors get paid less here…). But until I saw the numbers in front of me it wasn’t real.
#2. Don’t be afraid to move
Moving is one of the top stressful events for adults (and children). I could see us living in NYC for the foreseeable future. Once I ran the numbers living in Philly vs. NYC (incorporating our new higher salaries, less taxes, less expensive childcare) – it really was a no brainer. At the very least, it can’t hurt to try!
Thankfully my parents live in NJ so Philly isn’t that much further away and they can still be quite involved with helping out with our newborn.
#3. Sometimes you just gotta do what’s best for the family
We would’ve been “fine” staying here for a while or forever. I’d be lying if I said the cost of childcare (and private school if we went that route) in NYC didn’t cause some heart palpitations though.
Both of us have lived in NYC for several years and were open to trying something new.
NYC won’t be going away if we want to come back.
Have you moved to a lower COL? Comment below!